Best Online Marriage Counseling in Birmingham

Yes, couples therapy can help when your relationship feels more like roommates than partners.
As a therapist, I hear this almost weekly, what it really means is the emotional and physical connection is fading. Often, it’s a sexless marriage, or one where affection feels like a chore. You’re not fighting, but you’re not really seeing each other either.
In therapy, we help you understand how this happens (usually slowly, not suddenly), and guide you back to safety, touch, trust, and closeness, not by forcing anything, but by rebuilding connection layer by layer.

Yes, and we strongly encourage it, because not talking about it is often part of the problem.
Couples bring up painful sex, erectile dysfunction, mismatched desire, months without intimacy all of it. And they often say, “We’ve never said this out loud before.”
You don’t have to feel embarrassed. We create a space where sex isn’t treated as a performance issue but as a relational, emotional, and physical need. Whether you’re dealing with past trauma, physical discomfort, or simply drift, this is a safe place to talk about it.

That’s actually one of the most common reasons couples come to therapy and we know how to work with it.
In many relationships, one person becomes the “pursuer” and the other shuts down to avoid escalation. It’s not always about not caring, it’s often about not feeling safe to be honest.
As a therapist, I help couples name this pattern early, so we can start repairing it without blame. It’s not about forcing anyone to talk, it’s about learning how to listen in a way that makes them want to.

No, therapy isn’t about assigning blame. It’s about understanding what’s underneath the conflict.
As a therapist, I often remind couples: both of you are hurting, just in different ways. One might express it loudly, the other by pulling away. A skilled couples therapist doesn’t “take sides”, they make sure both people feel safe enough to be honest, even if that honesty is hard.